Since I love reading about relationship advice, I figured I’d write a blogpost on some!
A lot of my girl friends tell me about these wonderful guys they have met and how close they’ve gotten to be with one another—basically telling me nothing but great things. However, the problem is that person hasn’t committed to them, (ask her to be his girlfriend). So they feel they are in “limbo” meaning they’re not sure if they should move on from this guy or if this guy really likes them and simply hasn’t asked them out yet.
Here’s what I think you should do if you’re in a situation like this: just ask the person.
If you && the other person have such a wonderful relationship, that would mean both of you are able to tell each other anything, then you should be able to ask the person “where is this going?” or “do you see us going any further than what we are now?”. If you don’t feel comfortable doing this, then clearly the relationship is not as strong as you think because you should be able to tell someone you care for (who also cares back for you) how you feel and what you think about things, without them getting upset/hating you for it.
By doing this, you will for sure get an answer. Now, whether it is an answer you were hoping for or something else, is a totally different thing. I find that a lot of people who choose NOT to be direct && simply ask the person how they feel about them do this because they are afraid of what the answer could be.
If the person they have feelings for gives them an answer that they’ll never become official, or go any further than just being friends, then it results in a bit of heartbreak on the person who asked the question. But the way I see it, wouldn’t you want to know if you’re wasting your time on something that possibly will never happen? This way you are able to pick your pieces up && move on. Who knows, maybe it wasn’t meant to be.
I hope this helps to anyone who is in this situation or similar. This idea of being direct with the person you have feelings for can apply to any scenario. You want an answer? Just ask the person! Can’t ask the person? Build up the courage to && if you’re not comfortable with being able to ask the person you have feelings for a question, then maybe the relationship isn’t as great as it seems. In any good relationship, you should be comfortable with asking your significant other any question. It’s as simple as that. This is why I think relationships aren’t confusing.
-Chanel T.
