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“Catfished”: Learning to Communicate in a Social Media Age

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about how our means of communicating with one another are changing drastically. And what sort of consequences come from this transitionary phase of communication? What immediately comes to mind is the movie Catfish, and the subsequent MTV reality show of the same name. For those of you not familiar with the Catfish phenomenon, here is the movie trailer:

 

In the MTV show, the host Nev investigates other suspicious online relationships and usually the one who seeks out Nev finds out that their love interest is not who they thought they were. Either they are hiding something like their gender, or true identity, or sexuality, every show is a strange look into how Facebook is being used to give some people new identities.

However, the majority of social media users aren’t being duped into falling for complete strangers via social media. On a much more mundane level, we are instead reconnecting with old flames and finding new ones. Recently, a friend of mine got back in touch with an ex-boyfriend from high school. They talk online for awhile before taking their conversations to texts and after only two months she decided to go visit him in Alaska.

What she found there wasn’t the attentive and charming personality that she’d conversed with online. Instead he was a rude, disrespectful drunk. While he was at least the same person she’d talked to through Facebook, he was also completely different than he’d come across. So that leads me to the question, how well do we really know the people we are getting to know through Facebook? Even if these people aren’t complete strangers, what exactly do we lose when we choose to communicate through social media instead of face-to-face?

More than this, what does communicating through social media mean for the future of interpersonal communication as a whole? Nonverbal communication with morph into something else entirely. Instead of facial cues it will be emoji cues. Rather than body language we will dissect response times and the amount of “lols” used. So whether the future is bright or not remains to be seen, but it is without question that we are experiencing a paradigm shift in communication.

~ by mhuey on April 14, 2013 . Tagged: , , , , , ,



72 Responses to ““Catfished”: Learning to Communicate in a Social Media Age”

  1.   sgonzalp Says:

    Mia I completely agree with the fact that social media interactions have changed the face-to-face communication we experience today. It seems so easy for people to act one way online or through text and another way in person. While we need to stay social savvy within most communication career-fields, we also need to know how to facilitate effective communication outside of social-media sites. Great insight!

  2.   asimmon Says:

    I think this post brings up some very valuable points. I have to say that most of my communications now take place digitally. I had to write out an envelope the other day and my first step was to google “how to write out an envelope”. Face to face interactions or even phone conversations are becoming a rarity. I for one hate talking on the phone. I rather just text. But this definitely gets rid of a certain level of intimacy that was afford to us because or real time interactions. Looking at the generation of up and coming youngsters, things are really only getting worse. How many “real” relationships are possible when you have 1,000+ friends on Facebook? Do they actually know all of these people. I remember in interpersonal communication we were taught that there is only a limited amount of relationships a person is able to maintain. There is definitely going to be a shift in the ways humans interact. And I think it’s becoming rather impersonal and cold. Just like a computer.

  3.   jramon2 Says:

    I loved this post! Similar to the comments above, it brought so many interesting points. I completely related to the whole nonverbal going away. I am all about emojis and telling stories with them. There’s like an emoji for everything. That’s kind of scary though too. Loved the post. Hope to read more soon!

  4.   Caroline Williams Says:

    I have watched many episodes of MTV’s Catfish and every episode is unexpected. You never know if someone is putting up a front or not. I have heard that you can’t always believe what you read on the Internet many times. By this new means of communication, anyone can fake or distort who they really are. I think about this very often with texting and how easy it is to build a relationship with another person. Though my problem is that people don’t communicate the same way when face-to-face. The person you have been texting might not seem as dreamy or thoughtful, but shy and/or reserved instead. You brought up so many valuable points, like asimmon says. I enjoyed reading and thinking about your new post, Mia. Thanks.

  5.   mhuey Says:

    Thanks everyone! You all bring up valuable points and it is encouraging to see that this is a concern of mine that is widely shared. The way we communicate is definitely changing and being able to recognize that is the first step to figuring out how to navigate our way through communicating in a digital age.

  6.   Mhairi Says:

    Mia,

    This is such an insightful post and I couldn’t agree more. I wrote a similar post just a couple of weeks ago, also discussing MTV’s “Catfish.” Just thinking about how much social media has already changed for our generation, I can’t even imagine what it will be like in 10 years! How ofter do people have Facebook friends that they chat with online, but don’t even exchange a subtle smile with while passing by in “real life.”

    This posts definitely stirs thoughts and discussions. I personally think that the communication shift we have experienced in real life as a result of online communication is very sad. Don’t get me wrong online networking and conversing is great, and very valuable, but we should without a doubt be able to differentiate between the two.

    -Mhairi

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