The Epoch of Single Women

In the age of apps like Tinder and television shows such as Sex and the City, a change in how women perceive relationships and marriage has begun. The once popular opinion of marriage being the end all be all of a woman’s life has taken a backseat to a new idea focusing on their careers, personal relationships, friendships, and various other aspects of a woman’s life that aren’t marriage.
Recent statistics from the US Census Bureau show that the percentage of women aged 20-24 who are married has decreased from 46% in 1970 to 31.5% in 2015. When looking at these statistics further, a trend emerges which shows that overall in the U.S., women are in fact waiting to get married later in life.


Na’ama Shenhav, Ph.D candidate at the University of California, argues in a recent paper that the reasoning behind women waiting longer to get married is that they no longer have to rely on their husbands to provide for them financially. She goes on to say that previous generations of women did not have the same opportunities as the women of today and this directly played a role in why women tended to marry younger. For example, in 1970, a woman was faced with a crucial decision; does she pursue a career in a male-dominated work force where she will not get paid a competitive income, or does she instead marry a man who does have a career which pays almost more than half of what she would make? Unfortunately for many women, this decision was made for them either by their parents, or by the fact that they had no other choice.
Shenhav contends that the main reasoning behind women waiting to marry is because they are finally able to have fulfilling careers where they get paid an income that they can support themselves with. Shenhav also discusses some of the factors for marriage today and how they differ from previous generations of women, “as women become less financially reliant on men for household necessities, the decision to marry becomes more dependent on factors like love, social norms, or the desire to start a family”. Some of these factors are similar to the factors that previous generations of women used when deciding on getting married, but the only difference is that now women have more options and opportunities to acquire jobs and careers and have the ability to depend on themselves financially rather than on their husbands.
This idea of being financially independent is one that Maribel Tostado is familiar with. She recalls having a discussion with her father in which she explained to him what her lifestyle meant to her, “I know you think that I’m partying every night… [about her late 30s and the club scene] but I’m not. I actually live a very healthy life… I have a condo, actually, I own it and I have my car and I take of myself. I’m self-sufficient.” Being self-reliant has become a priority for her and was surprised to see the conversation was all it took for her parents to recognize her lifestyle as legitimate.
Tostado also spoke about online dating stating she met her current boyfriend on the popular dating app, Tinder. She adds that, “[Tinder’s] such a rare place to meet somebody of quality” acknowledging the stereotypes concerning the app. Tinder among other dating apps is conceived to be a hook-up app used to meet someone and them never talk to them again. Despite this perception of online dating, it is shown to have changed due to many people agreeing that it has become an easier way to meet people.
Pew Research Center found that users age 18- 24 increased from 10% in 2013 to 27% in 2016 while users age 55- 64 also saw increases in the number of users.


What does this say about the success of dating apps? Not much. Out of the 15% of Americans that have reported that they have used a dating app, only 5% are married to a spouse they met online (Pew Center Reseach).


Even with apps and technology that make dating easier, women are still not getting married at the rate they used to. This forces us to face the facts head on that times are changing. With changing times comes shifts in attitudes and values placed on certain social mandates. It is no longer the age of marriage, but the age of independence and self-sufficiency.

Group Contributions
All group members were present and participated during the interviews. Edeliz acted as the interviewer, asking questions and responding to the interviewees, Helena recorded the audio during the interviews, and Karina and Jess recorded video for them which we decided would not add to our story, so we did not use it and instead opted to go for a podcast. Edeliz provided the main editing of the audio, as well as recording the voiceover for our podcast. She also wrote the script for the podcast. Helena wrote the initial story pitch as well as being the group’s secretary. Helena, Jess, and Karina worked on writing the story and Jess created the graphics.


Our final story will examine the stigmatization unmarried women face in our society and how they feel about being pressured to get married as they get older. We will be utilizing video/audio interactive elements to conduct interviews with Maribel Tostado, professor at St. Edward’s and a single, Mexican woman living in the age of sex and the city with inescapable cultural and societal pressures to get married. The interview will hopefully allow us to gain a specific insight into how Tostado interprets these rising pressures and if they have affected how she has planned out her life. We also plan to interview young female students at St. Edward’s to get another perspective into if young women in today’s society feel the same cultural and societal pressures that a somewhat older woman such as Tostado feels. Also during these interviews, we plan to ask whether or not these women’s cultures have played a part in creating some of the pressures behind getting married.


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Audio Assignment Script – Edeliz

The importance of having a voice, especially on a college campus, can be as empowering as it is daunting. Recently, Hilltop Views, published an article criticizing the university for being an “echo chamber of liberal views” claiming that conservative voices on campus were being shut down and ignored. On social media, many people combatted this position while others agreed and felt there was truly a lack of conservative representation on campus.

That’s Martha Jamail. She’s a small, green-eyed sophomore philosophy major, and a member of the st.edward’s Young Democratic Socialists club on campus. Here, she’s explaining to me The Political Compass: a two-axis model of the political spectrum between libertarian/authoritarian and economic-left/economic-right.

“I actually just saw it on Know-Your-Meme,” she said chuckling.

We discussed about her take on whether or not St. Edward’s lacking in conservative voices is an issue or if maybe, those conservatives should just…stop complaining.

“Mostly we talked about that article in our last meeting. We were pretty upset by it,” she admitted. “I hear conservative viewpoints on this campus all the time and you can’t really be upset when your voice is the own in power right now.”

The only thing threatening about Martha is the knowledge behind her passionate political stances. As a person who cares about having a voice on campus, she’s not sure she agrees with St. Ed’s exclusively catering to liberals.

“We don’t think there’s a free speech problem on this campus,” Martha said.

Though St. Edward’s is a generally accepting place where the majority of people feel safe enough to express their views, we’re left wondering “whose responsibility should it be to make sure the university is including those who feel excluded?” There will always be differing opinions, especially in politics, but what we can all agree on is the evident drive students have to be heard. Their voices matter, even if they sing to a different tune.


Evelyn’s dad was held at gunpoint in Mexico. Men who were looking to take advantage of what his family had burglarized Evelyn’s family’s apartment and took everything they could find. Luckily, Evelyn’s family had recently uprooted her and her sister to the U.S. where everything is much safer and where they knew they would have a chance and opportunity to succeed.

Her life did a 180. From being raised in Mexico, she is all of a sudden 9 years old and in a new country. She learned a new language, culture, made new friends. The transition hasn’t been easy but it has been one to reflect on. To this day, at 22 years old, Evelyn finds it difficult to relate to Americans and Mexicans even though she is both. She forgets words in both languages or stutters a little when pronouncing something she’s never heard. She holds many American values yet manages to achieve a balance between staying true to her Mexican culture and staying true to herself.

First-generation Mexican Americans struggle with a very specific form of identity crisis. You’re American but you’re also a latino. You’re sometimes neither here nor there. You speak two languages, balance two distinct personalities, but you can often get tangled up in both identities. You can easily lose yourself between attempting to stay true to your heritage but inevitably fall back on your country of birth, or vise versa. In Evelyn’s case, she doesn’t have it all figured out. It’s not easy when your identity is quite literally a fusion of two cultures. Evelyn was fortunate enough to receive an education because of the hardships her parents endured in order to make sure she got ahead in this country.

From the double standards in Mexican culture between men and women, to just having a really good taco, Evelyn’s experience is just one of the many thousands of first generation A in this country who are the product of their parents’ sacrifices. Standing at the forefront of two cultures, Evelyn has been able to see the distinct differences between coming from a collectivist society into an individualist one. Mexicans are very tight-knit and family-oriented, American’s are much more independent and self-influenced. With both cultures pulling at her, Evelyn is still learning to adapt and decide where she stands on the spectrum. To her, being a first-generation American is not something she takes for granted. She continues to passionately strive for opportunities and live up to be the reflection of her parents’ endurances.

Midterm Story Draft EDELIZ

Please see my comments at the bottom.

Sometimes, it feels like you’re leading a double life. You have different friends, manners, gestures, expressions around different people. You’re one person one minute, and can be someone else the next. It’s as easy as flipping a switch, it’ll all just depend on context. First-generation Mexican Americans struggle with a very specific form of identity crisis. You’re American but you’re also a latino. You’re sometimes neither here nor there. You speak two languages, balance two distinct personalities, but you can often get tangled up in both identities. You can easily lose yourself between attempting to stay true to your heritage but inevitably fall back on your country of birth, or vise versa.

So how to first-generation Americans do it? How to they manage to stay true to both cultures? Immigrant parents are demanding. They bring you to one country to have a better life but then get upset once you’ve assimilated. You’re not Aexican enough for the Mexicans for American enough for the Americans. Some may feel embarrassed to not speak Spanish, others may be embarrassed when they forget words in english. You’re inclined to go out and get an education, do things on your own, but thecollectivist culture of your heritage looks down upon leaving your family when you’re not married. You constantly have to prove that you’re enough of both but also prove that your parents’ hardships have been worth it. If you’re proving yourself to other people, when are you going to be enough for yourself?
I want to find out what sort of rituals first generation Americans have. What are their days like? How do their speech patterns vary when they engage with their families or with friends? Juggling between being two people is exhausting. I’m going to interview two students on campus to see what their perspective and how they’ve managed to balance two very different cultures. How do they find acceptance from others? And how does this differ around various places in Mexico and the U.S. Do they feel disconnected from both cultures or do they manage to successfully have hold of the two? There are a lot of questions and a lot of ways to go about this but mainly I want to find out how others experiences differ from my own. It’s not easy to be flooded with clashing ideas of how you should be and how you want to be. In the end, you just want to feel accepted in both spaces even if it’s just from yourself. – OK, you get to it here and this is potentially very interesting. You don’t just want to talking heads though, right? It’s important to show the students in action. Ideally, you will show them interacting with their families and then on campus or with friends, too. In other words, you will illustrate your assertion that first-generation students can feel they have to wear different “masks” or show different fronts in different situations. What is your interactive element? How will you primarily tell this story. Remember that the written story is only 400-600 words and should not repeat the interactive. The interactive and written pieces should complement each other.  This is a great idea. Looking forward to seeing the story.